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Secret Handshake to Success

2024-05-02 15:48:00

What are the fundamentals of greeting? Who extends their hand first? What does the black-tie dress code mean? These are just a few questions that were answered at a lecture organized by GYDSZ. Participants gained deeper insights into social etiquette and world dances with the guidance of Oxána Jegonyán, an international competition judge, and László Attila, a dance master.
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Just like anything else, international protocol starts with the basics: greetings. Did you know that people form opinions about each other within the first 4 minutes of introduction? To ensure a positive impression, we must be aware of the etiquette of greeting. Knowing the hierarchy of greetings is fundamental. We cannot extend our hand to someone of higher rank or our superior. A similar rule applies when a man meets a woman: the lady can decide whether to extend her hand to the gentleman. If she does, the man kisses her hand. This gesture of hand-kissing is a symbol of respect of course, with a gentle nod substituting for an actual kiss.

During the first encounter, the man has to introduce himself to the lady, who then can choose whether to reveal her name and reciprocate the gesture or simply acknowledge it. The exception to this rule is an interaction between superiors and subordinates. While introducing oneself, it’s crucial not to rush. We should exude confidence through our tone and posture. A handshake symbolizes a personal connection, so maintaining eye contact and displaying firmness demonstrate that we are genuine, valuable partners.

When invited to a high-level event, the question of what to wear may arise. Whether it’s a conference, gala, or reception, adhering to the specified dress code is mandatory. This demonstrates one’s respect and seriousness. The most elegant events expect a white-tie attire, which entails a tailcoat and patent leather shoes for men. Women must wear a floor-length dress covering the shoulders, closed-toe high heels, and gloves. On the gloves only bracelets are acceptable, rings aren’t. The black-tie dress code is a bit more laid back, a suit is expected for men, and women have more flexibility with attire, allowing for shorter evening dresses and exposed shoulders, while closed-toe high heels remain essential.

Regarding accessories, pocket watches are acceptable for men at such events, but wristwatches are not. It is also a general rule that only a dress watch should be worn with a suit, and sports watches are to be worn only for casual attire or sporty dress codes. Women should aim for subtlety in accessories, as restrained choices help highlight the personality. It’s generally advised not to mix gold and silver jewelry, and the makeup should follow an elegant, simple line.

Body language and gestures are essential components of the appearance. We exist in space, so we must pay attention to how we present ourselves within it, our movements, and our coordination. Every step should be coordinated, exuding confidence and determination. Respecting personal space is crucial; we should neither stand too close nor too far from our conversation partner, as this also conveys a message.

After making an appearance, introducing ourselves, and making the first impression, we engage in conversation, but even this has its rules. Taboo topics include politics, finances, religion, ethnicity, and health. So, what can we talk about? Small talk usually revolves around the event itself, art, and sports.

Dance often accompanies such events. Participants had the opportunity to learn and try out English and Viennese waltzes, rock’n’roll, and cha-cha. Restraint is also crucial in these dances. Different dance styles and even the music chosen depend on the seriousness of the event. The man invites the lady to dance, and his posture should be decisive, as he leads her onto the dance floor and throughout the dance.

It’s important to note that expectations vary depending on cultures worldwide. Each continent has its norms and rules governing behavior and protocol at different events. Therefore, it’s crucial to be aware of the particularities and etiquettes of each culture. Furthermore, as rules continuously evolve, our knowledge should always be up to date with the latest norms. Of course, rules only matter if they’re followed. Understanding and adhering to norms could be the key to successful navigation in diplomatic spaces and effective communication. Overall, mastering global etiquette is essential for university students as they navigate various social settings, ensuring they leave a positive impression wherever they go. 

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